Hello all, Jill reporting for blogging duty this week! Carmen, as you may all know is the mastermind behind our blog and I commend her on her dedication and amazing post’s, which I looked forward to reading each week. This week Carmen has passed the baton to me, only for the week, and asked me to do the honors. For those of you who may not recall, I am one of the three partners working on BB Squared and the dedication towards celebrating and creating conversations about differences.
Now when Carmen had asked me to post for the week I had no idea what I was to write about. And as anyone who knows me knows, my brain is always going a thousand miles a minute thinking about this that and the other thing. So of course the moment I was asked, the wheels started to turn… what should I write about, as this is a momentous day… the first time my words will be on this blog, and I have learned in my great 22 years, first impressions are important.
I thought long and hard on this subject, and first I thought ME, I will talk about ME…. Then I thought no, that would come off as much to selfish! So I thought maybe I will write about others whom I know with difference…. And then I thought how about write about how others with differences taught me something about my difference, with their difference!!!! Now take a second that think about that to make sure you understand….
And here are my top 3 life changing moments where someone with a difference taught me something about my difference with his or her difference.
#1. Number one goes to a young female with Down’s syndrome who as well falls somewhere on the ATS scale. She has a limited vocabulary and communication skills, but can brighten up the world with her laugh and smile. For a young women like myself with depression, anxiety, and a variety of learning differences, the importance of a genuine smile, and ability to laugh some stuff off are very important skills. Nothing seems to worry this teenager as she lives unaware of so many things, where the simplest of things are going to make you the happiest you can be forever, what that must be like always living is a blissful world.
#2. Number two is to my best friend Carmen, whom I have worked with for many years, taught me how to appreciate the small things. Carmen gets so excited about the smallest beauties or exciting happenings in life. She showed me how to look at and recognize these small pleasures in life. I did not understand ‘small pleasures’ as I was always too worried, or too on edge to notice. Once they are pointed out like a favorite show or song, a beautiful picture or person, a meeting with a friend you have not seen in a long time, you start to notice and understand their value and feel the joy in life simplicities.
#3. My number three moments goes to a friend who has ADHD and his parents chose not to have him medicated. In the short amount of time we spent together before he left to follow a dream I was able to observe how he overcame his challenges with confidence. I have taken medications for my difference on and off, as I do not like the side effects. He had and still is achieving and moving towards his goals through his own self-medication of intelligence, intuition, and self-confidence. As these were the attributes, which he used to navigate through the difficulties of his difference, I am trying to incorporate them into helping navigate through mine. This is not an easy task I may add but is something which has helped me greatly.
You learn from everyone and can benefit from others experiences. This is why we are all different, if we were all the same then we would face the same problem over and over again and never come up with a solution. I love differences and value each individual who I am lucky enough to meet who is willing to share their differences, and let me learn, and in return I will share mine and maybe they will learn something too.